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June 15, 2008

sometimes life (and here, by 'life' i dont mean the duration of time u 'exist') is so short term and u know u cant do anything about it...
noone can do anything about it...except maybe spread the gossip around or shed some sympathetic tears...

they say "smile...it makes others wonder what uve got"
but for how long?? and does it really matter?
when u are busy fighting an ordeal of ur own, would u really have the time and inclination to make people wonder about u?

ok so we smile for ourselves right? maybe laugh to forget our troubles...drown our sorrows--the motto of those stupid 'laughter clubs' where u see a group of troubled faces breathe in and out makig loud 'laugh like' noises early in the morning...
but does that really work?who are we kidding???
A couple of things happening which have made me realise yet again, how things arnt in our control sometimes
no matter how predictable i want my life to be, someone up there is always up to something to keep up to the unpredictability :)
while speaking to mom yesterday, i could see how the twists and turns in my life are unconciously affecting my family as well...
so does that mean a whole set of lives are affected by HIS one move?? wowww! he really seems to be a master mind!
but what about those people who arnt aware of these changes in my life and yet are bound to me some way or the other...what about them? what about ull? :)

There are things i dont like speaking about...
there are certain issues i would love to forget...
we all do that---each a different issue...a different worry...a different matter of concern...
and yet there are things which constantly keep changing the dynamics..lol!!
"enjoy the moment" they say...probably ya, because thats the only thing u can be totally sure of----'the moment'
then why do people (even some very good friends) speak to me about 'backup plans' and 'backups to backup plans' and frown when i tell them i dont have any??
but i cant blame them either...because they going the normal wise way---the one which promises to make life predictable and stable...and they arnt aware that some people have lives just too stubborn to be tamed!

backup plans are not for everyone!
some people are left with no other choice than to try and 'live' the moment and smile as they try to spread some smiles along the way :)

33 comments:

Alok said...

‘THE MOMENT’ – is where you live the life and it’s entirely yours and no one can take it from you or can change it. But there are times you prepare yourself may be mentally or physically for that ‘moment’ and when come and stand right there in front of you; sometime the meaning started changing and you see there are various other moments that effecting it as a whole. So now, it’s completely in your hands to identify that ‘moment’ of yours where you want to live; in many ways it shows the character of an individual. And probably this is the time you see yourself at best making the decision and living up to it without the fear or the frustration chasing you.

And backup plans are for people who live in a world of predications and fears; the fear of losing the things and predicating the control of things that they never had … I can associate that line with one of my favorite quote - “I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today. - William Allen”

Keshi said...

u wrote this beautifully Pri! Its as if u were speaking my heart out here.


*then why do people (even some very good friends) speak to me about 'backup plans' and 'backups to backup plans' and frown when i tell them i dont have any??


I dun like ppl who tell me that. I dun hv any backup plans either. Cos I dun PLAN life anymore.


I love love love this post! So in the MOMENT. Which is what life is abt after all.


*HUGZ

Keshi.

lukkydivz said...

lolz am i reading this at the right time? Life is unpredictable n so full of disappointments AT THIS MOMENT :( :(

takecare :-*

Rambler said...

"y say "smile...it makes others wonder what uve got"
but for how long?? and does it really matter?
when u are busy fighting an ordeal of ur own, would u really have the time and inclination to make people wonder about u?
"

oh it definitely does..I have always wondered whats it about smile that attracts me so much..how long..as long as possible and always..you definitely will attract people and souls with a smile

Abhishek Khanna said...

life is like that..

havnt u heard

life is a bitc*
life is a whor*
nothing less
nothing more

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) said...

very true... some things in life just dont have back up plans...

Keshi said...

Pri hunny I said something to u in Sinhalese in my comment-reply to u in my blog. hv a look n see if u can figure out what it means :)

Keshi.

Stupidosaur said...

They say

"Life is what happens while you make other plans"


But I think I have figured out why I don't have a 'life'


Since I don't make any (other) plans, 'life' doesn't happen to me.

brocasarea said...

hmm...."life is too short to worry abt small things" no!!....u have very well penned down ur thoughts here![this post]

Pri said...

@ alok
i loved the quote at the end :)
but practically speaking, we all want to have the security of a happy tomorrow dont we?---where everything is atleast 'normal' if not good...especially when our 'yesterday' and 'today' isnt so...
william allen either was a very happy man or maybe just a great pretender :)

@ keshi
im with u keshi....entirely!
i believe in the moment too...and once its gone, i guess i believe in nostalgia :)
because we can never be sure what surprise life is all ready to fling at us around the next bend...

cheers to life this moment! :)

@ luckydivz
one important thing divz...when ur living in the moment, remember to live FOR the moment...dont hold onto it for a long time...
like all moments, remember that this one too will pass away :)

its just a 'moment' afterall ;)
so cheer up!

@ rambler
thats not the point rambler...the point is when u smile inspite of all the odds, do u really have the time to bother whether its attracting people or not...
gimme a break!lol!!

i would rather say 'smile to fool urself (and feel happy)' than 'smile to make ppl wonder what uve got'

this might sound selfish, but when uve got soo many odds infront of you, its never bout 'them' its only about 'you' and how ur going to survive the odds...

Pri said...

@ abhishek khanna
LOL!!

@ raaji
yeps...some people too :)

@ keshi
i would need to get an interpretor along :(
but will chk it out anyways and then harass u to interpret it for me just in case (wch is pretty obvious though) i dont understand it :D

@ stupidosaur
trust me---sometimes having no life is much better than having one! :-/

@ brocasarea
ur right...but what if there are too many (not so small) things to worry about???
life is not thaat short and i guess thats the problem...
there is almost always just enough time to worry urself!lol!!

Alok said...

Security, happy, tomorrow, normal, good … I would add peace, joy to the list and there are more .... Hmm! Practically what we want ? is never answered. What you want, what you need, what you got, what you have, what you lost ? they all have something to say about the life, If you have the answers without having the questions they prefer to remain silent.

aneri_masi said...

yeah, its all so confusing...
live in the moment, but also have a plan!

I guess what they are saying is try to balance it all out? Think about the future, but not so much that you ignore your present? Think about your long term goals. The way to achieve them, the path you take to get there might change every now and then, but as long as you know where you want to go, what you want, it should be ok.

bass, chup ho jaati hoon, I got bored myself with all that gyaan :)

I saw your comment about my chocolate souffle. I wish you were here! I brought it with me to work to share with everyone, but kisi ne khaya hi nahi :( I wanted to share!

BTW, aneri and her lil sis Jaanvi were here this weekend! They're so cute! Anu bullies the lil one though :(

Keshi said...

so true.

NOSTALGIC MOMENTS it is - woohoo Pri rocks!

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**Sinhalese

haha I'll tell u wut it means...just try and tell me wut u think it is. give it a go. :) cos Sinhalese is quite similar to Hindi.


Keshi.

maverick said...

because they going the normal wise way---the one which promises to make life predictable and stable...and they arnt aware that some people have lives just too stubborn to be tamed!


well sometimes the back up plans are just a part of the reflex action of a person..they can b highly instinctive in characteristic..but then everyone would love not to be tamed :)...howz hyd treating ya

Ankur said...

Dont Agree,

U think u dont have backup plans???

Everyone has, knowingly or unknowingly!!!

i can bet!!!
may be i dont know enough and may be i m generalising... but i have my say!!! :)

Life is unpredictable, and if u cant decide on something doesnt means tat u dont have a plan, it may be tat nothing fits into ur plan!!!!

So when they say smile n when they say everything will be fine, they say coz they know we r human, we feel sad and then we feel happy, its a vicious circle, a rolla-coaster life... we have our share and say in it!!! :)

I know people hate me for sayin that everything will be fine, ppl who know me know that except one thing i m more optimistic in life than being a pessimist... i like to do things, and i do hate when ppl tell me laugh...

coz when i laugh, i dont laugh for any of these... **maybe laugh to forget our troubles...drown our sorrows--the motto of those stupid 'laughter clubs' where u see a group of troubled faces breathe in and out makig loud 'laugh like' noises early in the morning...**
i laugh when i feel like and when i cant i dont!!!


so my personal exp is that no one can force u, but one feel bad or irritated when they relate their previous emotions to the thing... otherwise why when someone wants to share things with one, y do they feel bad to share those!!!
i dont find any reason...

Dont know how much i m making sense... its so easy to be judgemental... but i still will and forever keep the notion tat ppl who ask u to smile, they dont say coz they dont know what u must be going through, but they say coz they know wat u shldnt go through!!!

Its so easy to say that u dont want to speak abt ur personal problems, but how easily problems can be personal and how easily when someone else is facing the heat it must obviously be shared!!!
We all do tat... we dont want to share coz we believe that they dont have a right to know and we shld sort this out on ourselves!!!

dont knw... long comment, i dont like it myself nowdays to write so much... but :)

no offence!!!

Rakesh said...

very much agree with ur point(enjoy every moment)..actually i have about this in some of ur post..and why not life is momental yaar....Good Post:D

Karthik S said...

Changing dynamics, life's unpredictability, living the moment, .... thinking high stuff.

You made me think a lot. :-(

But, this is great post. Your thoughts have beautifully penned down.

Pri said...

@ alok
that made sense! have u watched the prelogue of the new movie (not yet released) "hall-e-dil" ?? (talking about the promos)
what u said reminded me of it though that was in a kinda spiritual sense... :)

@ aneri_masi
///yeah, its all so confusing...
live in the moment, but also have a plan!///
there are times and situations which leave u without any scope for backup plans...and if u dont live in the moment, u'd regret not having enjoyed ur present apart from the fact that u are as clueless about the future :(

///Think about your long term goals. The way to achieve them, the path you take to get there might change every now and then, but as long as you know where you want to go, what you want, it should be ok.///
hmm...i guess ur right...but what use is a map to a place u know u can never reach??

///bass, chup ho jaati hoon, I got bored myself with all that gyaan :)///
no no...im never bored with gyaan...so feel free :)

///I saw your comment about my chocolate souffle. I wish you were here! I brought it with me to work to share with everyone, but kisi ne khaya hi nahi :( I wanted to share!///
i wish i was there too :(
btw why dint anyone eat it?? *raises an eyebrow*

///BTW, aneri and her lil sis Jaanvi were here this weekend! They're so cute! Anu bullies the lil one though :(///
sigh! tell jaanvi not to worry...i can give her tips on how to bully older siblings :p
heyy u know what, u should p[ut up their pics o ur photoblog...would love to see them :)
hugzz to both of them!

Solitaire said...

Living in the moment is the best thing one can do.
We cannot ruin our present by thinking about what has already happened and cannot be undone and worrying about what is to follow!

Pri said...

@ keshi
*throws a big hug right back at keshi*
heyy dear, sorry for not being able to catch up with ur blog yest...was a lil busy..will definitely check it up right away...
sinhalese is similar to hindi?? really?? cool!!
then hoping il'l; guess it right :D

@ maverick
///the back up plans are just a part of the reflex action of a person..they can b highly instinctive in characteristic///
ahh i wish i had such backup-creative-instincts in me...
i guess the gene is lacking! :(

///but then everyone would love not to be tamed :)///
i was talking about life there buddy...and most ppl would love to have it under their conrol! :)
dont u think?

///howz hyd treating ya??///
hyd??????

DUH! ive never even been to hyderabad...
wonder where u got that from...lol!!

Pri said...

@ ankur

///U think u dont have backup plans???///
for some things and decisions, i dont think , i KNOW that i dont have any backup plans!! :)

///Everyone has, knowingly or unknowingly!!!///
correction: everyone would LIKE to have...

///may be i dont know enough and may be i m generalising... but i have my say!!! :)///
well i guess u have ur answer too in ur very own lines there :)

///Life is unpredictable, and if u cant decide on something doesnt means tat u dont have a plan, it may be tat nothing fits into ur plan!!!!///
huh? dosent that mean the same thing--that life dosent allow u to have backup plans sometimes??

///So when they say smile n when they say everything will be fine, they say coz they know we r human, we feel sad and then we feel happy, its a vicious circle, a rolla-coaster life... we have our share and say in it!!! :)///
well as i said this isnt about 'them' anyways...

///I know people hate me for sayin that everything will be fine, ppl who know me know that except one thing i m more optimistic in life than being a pessimist... i like to do things, and i do hate when ppl tell me laugh...///
keep up the optimism...and i guess also practice what u preach :)(everybody knows when to laugh and when not to...we dont always need someone reminding us or trying to controll our emotions...)
ohh but trying to make u feel better by making u smile is a different thing altogether...thats what friends are for i guess :)

///i laugh when i feel like and when i cant i dont!!!///
all i can say to that is that its not about 'them' but its not always about 'us' either :)


///so my personal exp is that no one can force u, but one feel bad or irritated when they relate their previous emotions to the thing... otherwise why when someone wants to share things with one, y do they feel bad to share those!!!
i dont find any reason...///
sorry i dint get what ur trying to say here...care to elaborate??

///but i still will and forever keep the notion tat ppl who ask u to smile, they dont say coz they dont know what u must be going through, but they say coz they know wat u shldnt go through!!!///
i dont deny that...never did!

///Its so easy to say that u dont want to speak abt ur problems///
yess its even more easier to go "awww...that is soo sad" isnt it? but please tell me how would that help?

///We all do tat... we dont want to share coz we believe that they dont have a right to know and we shld sort this out on ourselves!!!///
well yes...some ppl find it comforting to share..ad some dont...
whateva rocks ur boat! :)

///dont knw... long comment, i dont like it myself nowdays to write so much... but :)

no offence!!! ///
not at all...it just shows that u speak out what u feel and thats something i respect :)
why dont u like it that u write soo much nowadays????


@ rakesh
well life isnt momentary..but maybe happiness, sadness and all other emotions are :)

Pri said...

@ karthik s
thanks karthik...would really love to hear ur thoughts on it too :)


@ solitaire
absolutely!
but sometimes we do crave for a lil bit of 'nostalgia' and a lil bit of 'certainity' too dont we?
not too much..just about enough to keep us going :)
afterall we are human! :)

Alok said...

I just got the news from a fellow blogger that there is a movie called – "hall-e-dil" :)

Solitaire said...

Hey Dr. Pri,

Let's make you a bit nostalgic...just a wee bit.
I have tagged you. Its on WARM FUZZIES!

ceedy said...

Honestly Doc...I think all you need to take a course is in De-Think....personally dwelling in on the nostalgia is not avoidable...but the duration and the effect it has on you is....so live for the moment...cause by thinking about yesterday you are losing the current and will have no nostalgia stored for the coming tommorow....

aneri_masi said...

hmmm...if you know you can not get to that place, then you need to stop thinking about it. If it really is impossible..that is. If there is even a tiny sliver of hope, and a lot of passion to get there, then you will!

Abt the souffle...well, I had brought it back after lunch, and everyone was full.

Pics of the kids...I will send you a picasa link. Don't want to put them up on a public blog. My babies are too precious :)

Rakesh said...

it is..since anything can happen anytime in terms of happiness, sadness etc.....no one can predict..uncertainty(more or less) there at every moment

La vida Loca said...

good one
think i'll do this

Pri said...

@ alok
i just caught the promos some days back...
and the introductory dialogue kinda got me hooked up for a while :)

@ solitaire
whoaa! more nostalgic than i normally am?? now this ive got to check out!! :D
will take it up soon...

@ ceedy
point noted ur honour! :)

@ aneri+masi
hmm i guess il'l keep my fingers crossed then :)
ohh do mail me the link..would love to see those cutopies :D
ohh and weird colleagues uve got :-/
i would have gone straight for the souffle even if i was exploding :p
u really need ppl like me around ;)

@ rakesh
well yes i agree...life is uncertain for all..just that its a lil more uncertain for some :)
but then again, thats what everyone thinks isnt it??

@ la vida loca
thanks...but err...do what???

Rakesh said...

yup right..:D

secret admirer said...

legendery words by charlie chaplin:
"life laughs at you when u r unhappy.
life smiles at you whe u are happy.
BUT life salutes u when u make everyone around you happy"
u are capable of creating a million smiles :) :) :) :)

life salutes you pri!

your secret admirer