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January 04, 2009

is 'cutting off' really that easy??

I was checking my orkut when suddenly i remembered that i hadent wished a friend for the new year...that brought about yet another realisation that i hadent heard from her over the last few days...
so feeling a tad bit dissapointed i typed in her name only to find out that she was no longer there in my friend list...i was taken aback (no!..shocked is more apt a word) but then i consoled myself thinking that she had probably exchanged her name for a status msg on her profile...so i went ahead and tried searching her page in a common friends list and there she was--among the first few people showing online!!
what i found out later through the common friend was that she has been going through a tough time and so has decided to cut off on all 'online' friendships!!

thats when enlightenment dawned that maybe she is one of those or has changed into one of those people who no matter what, decide never to rub off the line between 'online' and 'friendship'
there have been times in the past when i was wary of online friendships myself...but then i met u guys and realised that i was wrong..so totally wrong!!

well yes, i still am cautious of random strangers on the net and there is no denying that but if and when i befriend them, i make sure i dont walk out on them...and definitely not for a reason they are least responsible for!!
not asking for much but atleast a small note saying that ur rubbing me off is all i expect...!
i wont ask questions...
i wont expect any explanations...
just tell me that ur walking away and i promise i wont stop you!
but leaving silently like this??? its just not done!!
where did the friendship go?
where did the sweet talk and plesantries dissapear? or was it exactly that---"sweet talk and ridiculous plesantries"
i know she blogged about it and im guilty of not being able to update myself..but having known that, is leaving a small tiny message/email/scrap too difficult?

i know that we all need our 'me-time' once in a while..but dont expect me not to be shocked and hurt if u suddenly dissapear like that!!
no i wont understand...
no i wont sympathise...
ive been there...done that...have had my share of insecurities, vulnerabilities and all i can say is that with time, u realise that losing out on people who really care about u is just not worth it...

remember 'someone who deserves ur tears will never make u cry and if he does then it just means he isnt worth ur tears'..so gear up...get up and face the world...dont run away from friends..from life!!
im also aware that realisation dawns with its own sweet time..
so i wont offer long hours of advice and i wont force my opinion...like i said on her blog, we are there with her...maybe from the other side of the comp screen but we always will be! (unless ofcourse she decides to rub us off from her life for good)
For now, all i can do is wish her all the best and hope 2009 gets her back with us as a much stronger and happier person!

21 comments:

Arv said...
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Pri said...

@ arv
heyy arv...its not that...everyone has their issues...but am a lil hurt just because she dint even drop in a word saying shes leaving...
im sure she deserves all the good friendships in the world..she is a wonderful person..she just needs time to get over things i guess and its okay
sometimes we are allowed to be a lil selfish :)

Lena said...

sometimes we just act spontaneous under the influence of emotions... i understand you being hurt, would have felt the same... lets hope she gets back to her normal self just like you said, a little bit stronger :)

The Rat... said...

sniff sniff.. same happ here sumtime back... but i didnt worry much coz i tot if he chose to cut off my friendship, he is not worth it... it hurt for sometime but i just left it at that..

Hugzzz.. and doncha do that to me... OKAY???

aneri_masi said...

This was a strange one...as if cutting off "online friends" was going to solve anything!

Oh well...chalo one less false friend in your life I would say, hai na?

Sam said...

i dont know what this real or virtual thing of friendship is...either u r friends in total sense or u r not....

even blogs are termed as virtualstuff...how ? there r some real ppl writing n interacting....

anyways she must hv had some her own reasons to go off!!!

take it in the stride :)

Chronicwriter said...

orkut.. history for me.. and all the virtual friends.. was good .. blog is my life now

Urv said...

//just tell me that ur walking away and i promise i wont stop you!

:( :( :(

Bad. Very bad. Me sad.

sawan said...
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sawan said...

prya, you take care girl.. m sure your friend is gona come back and I am sure she would be feeling sorry for her impulsive step. but we really cant let her go, can we? she is a swthrt and remember we are all friends! if we dont support each other, then who would?

aneri_masi, avoid judging people when they are emotionally disturbed. if they dont make sense, dnt u think its our responsibility to wait for them to make sense of the situation? everyone got ups and downs, and i agree with you, she might not have done the desirable, but why cant we empathize? why cant we just support her and bring her back to us? if a friend cant forgive her, then who would?

Ankita Agrawal said...

may be sometimes it's better to walk off n leave things unsaid..!I hope she has reason for dis...dont worry :-)

shruti said...

yeah i understand that so well what you must have felt,but then i can empathize with her too sometimes a bitter experience we have on the net makes us weary of all the others too but thats no reason to leave good nice friends.
cheer up priyanka:)

shruti said...

blogrolled you:)

Pri said...

@ all
please refrain from taking a biased opinion about this post..i know that u guys want to make me feel better but in the process lets not forget that she is going thru a bad phase herself...
i guess amidst the hurt i had quite forgotten it myself...was soo selfish that i started comparing her hurt to mine only to realise now that it probably is a lot less than what shes going thru...
cos a true friend has every right to hurt u and then say sorry and expect to wash it all away :)

@ divz
divz, i never wanted to add to ur tensions and i know u realise that...
there was no way of communicating with u and i was hoping u would read this post and somewhere understand that whether in ur friend list or not, some friendships always stay :)

please dont misunderstand any of the comments here as i havent mentioned the exaqct reason since i dint want anyone questioning u about it and adding to ur worries...
but read ur post only now and probably ive managed to hurt u too though unintentionally....

if u read the post right upto the end, ul know that i would always wish well and want the best for u...
luv u..please take care!

aditi said...

Sometimes it happens. I can understand your hurt. But I can understand your frnd's position also. Sometimes something hits us so badly that we suddenly don't want to take any chances and just withdraw

Pavi!!!! said...

i can empathize wit the way u feel...but also u'stand that ur friend was probably forced to do wat she did.
Alls well that ends well....rite?

Meera said...

I agree:)
And I am back pri...happy new year to you too :)

Abhishek Khanna said...

thats bad.. :O

Sam said...

stop feelin bad for somebody else....in the end one has to live one s own life!!

angel from heaven said...

aww thats so sad but dont feel too bad ,everyone has reasons for their actions and maybe your friend has one too.If you truely value the friendship, may be you can email her/him and explain how hurt you felt and ask maybe you can maintain friendship otherways than in orkut . ie by email,msngr , live chat???

Any way saw your blog link in orkut so paid you a visit.

http://cutestangel.wordpress.com/

Sivaram said...

someone who deserves ur tears will never make u cry and if he does then it just means he isnt worth ur tears - Good one in deed Tears .. finally its our own life